My friend Karan once told me years back "Nobody is going to be with you forever my friend, unless that person is your wife". Now I reflect on it and I realize how right he was. To tell you five years ago I had no idea where I would be today, nor about the people around, friends included. Over a certain period of time you realize that nobody unrelated to you is permanent in your life. Friends change, their priorities, their goals and often you end up making eye contact with the person who was once your buddy and now is stranger, you gaze at him trying to find a connection but your conscious mind cannot retrieve who they are. Happens to pretty much everyone. Sure has happened with you.
Funny thing about world is that people move in crowds yet they are lonely. To say you are in a vast garden yet incompleteness surrounds. Its like a shell we make for ourselves. Shell that does not exist for only that one who completes our world. With whom we can be ourselves, with whom we can truly express every bit of whats going on around us without slightest hesitation. Its like we get naked with them, now don't get me wrong here. According to me being naked is opening up the doors of mind to them, our dreams, thoughts, aspirations, ambitions, desires and not what you initially thought about it. They can be our best friend, our spouse or even both. Its not a surprise most successful marriages started with friendship but I am not taking romantic angle into account here, nor am I here to discuss the dynamics of marital life. Then what? read on.
I tell you one fact I would swear on. Living without expectations is impossible. And even if you try hard to be selfless, you cant stay that way for long. Give and take happens everywhere. People exchange glances, share moments, create memories, argue, enjoy with both or more people involved. Its as good as saying you cannot clap with one hand. And then doing anything one way ends up hurting no matter how hard you try to convince yourself its the right thing. Everyone expects constructive outcome from every action. at the end of the day we need life to share with somebody, somebody that matters. People are everywhere, where is that one?
Its funny how we meet people in our lives and who comes and who goes, whom we give attention to, who disappears in the background. Answer to the question to who remains in our life begins with comfort, is nurtured by understanding and subsequently that person becomes somebody in our life on the account of continuous such experience. Talking psychology? Not really. To give my example some 5 yrs back I met this person online, little did I know he would turn into the brother I never had before. Sunil bhai I call him. Then there is this friend I came across on facebook a couple of weeks back, few chats and surprise! we met. Unbelievably I never felt as if I was meeting her for the first time, no jitters, no being nervous, just her and me. Comfort is where it began, like I mentioned before. These are just two examples I am giving, two positive.
Ironically what makes us stronger can make us weak too. To tell you there are never calculations involved with people who matter. They just remain, like our sky, sometimes happy and clear, sometimes grim, sometimes angry and stormy but they never let go. That is the true beauty of being closest to somebody. But again, are you sure they are to be in your life forever? I am not asking you to doubt the person you are closest to. But then everything comes at a cost, and when the person you build your world around deviates even slightest from the way you expected to, it hurts. We are then left with two options, correct it or leave it to be. While telling them whats wrong is brave and intelligent way, sometimes its better to lose argument than losing the person. Take a beating on that ego. Its fine, you must go on. And like in one of my previous posts titled PINCH OF SALT. Even to this person we must take things with a pinch of salt. Behavior of others is something we cannot control and should not try to either. Because feelings come from the heart. They should want to. If everyone becomes what we want them to, then what difference will remain between humans and robots. Then again there is a limit.
I like repeating this thought maybe because since I heard it, it has been dwelling in my mind. its just simple one that. "Control what you can, remaining leave on god. You will get what you deserve at the end of the day." We in our lives are faced with many questions we really need answer to, its just that we cannot frame a suitable question or we are afraid of repercussions it may bring. Either ways I strongly believe its better to act than to keep guessing. Somehow that calculation comes into effect. How long? How much? Just say it.
You have one life, and that one life will suffice If you live it right. Everyone has their own struggle, just like you do. Its a matter of whom to smile to and whom to turn your back. Just two things to keep in mind after you finish reading this. One-be open to others opinion and express yourself. Two- Take it with a pinch of salt, not everything will happen as you like it.
As far as connections are concerned, want to make one yourself? Drop me a message.
Love all,
SAiSH
P:S Thanks to the readers because of whom the blog has got 2000+ hits also to my followers on twitter. You guys rock!
Funny thing about world is that people move in crowds yet they are lonely. To say you are in a vast garden yet incompleteness surrounds. Its like a shell we make for ourselves. Shell that does not exist for only that one who completes our world. With whom we can be ourselves, with whom we can truly express every bit of whats going on around us without slightest hesitation. Its like we get naked with them, now don't get me wrong here. According to me being naked is opening up the doors of mind to them, our dreams, thoughts, aspirations, ambitions, desires and not what you initially thought about it. They can be our best friend, our spouse or even both. Its not a surprise most successful marriages started with friendship but I am not taking romantic angle into account here, nor am I here to discuss the dynamics of marital life. Then what? read on.
I tell you one fact I would swear on. Living without expectations is impossible. And even if you try hard to be selfless, you cant stay that way for long. Give and take happens everywhere. People exchange glances, share moments, create memories, argue, enjoy with both or more people involved. Its as good as saying you cannot clap with one hand. And then doing anything one way ends up hurting no matter how hard you try to convince yourself its the right thing. Everyone expects constructive outcome from every action. at the end of the day we need life to share with somebody, somebody that matters. People are everywhere, where is that one?
Its funny how we meet people in our lives and who comes and who goes, whom we give attention to, who disappears in the background. Answer to the question to who remains in our life begins with comfort, is nurtured by understanding and subsequently that person becomes somebody in our life on the account of continuous such experience. Talking psychology? Not really. To give my example some 5 yrs back I met this person online, little did I know he would turn into the brother I never had before. Sunil bhai I call him. Then there is this friend I came across on facebook a couple of weeks back, few chats and surprise! we met. Unbelievably I never felt as if I was meeting her for the first time, no jitters, no being nervous, just her and me. Comfort is where it began, like I mentioned before. These are just two examples I am giving, two positive.
Ironically what makes us stronger can make us weak too. To tell you there are never calculations involved with people who matter. They just remain, like our sky, sometimes happy and clear, sometimes grim, sometimes angry and stormy but they never let go. That is the true beauty of being closest to somebody. But again, are you sure they are to be in your life forever? I am not asking you to doubt the person you are closest to. But then everything comes at a cost, and when the person you build your world around deviates even slightest from the way you expected to, it hurts. We are then left with two options, correct it or leave it to be. While telling them whats wrong is brave and intelligent way, sometimes its better to lose argument than losing the person. Take a beating on that ego. Its fine, you must go on. And like in one of my previous posts titled PINCH OF SALT. Even to this person we must take things with a pinch of salt. Behavior of others is something we cannot control and should not try to either. Because feelings come from the heart. They should want to. If everyone becomes what we want them to, then what difference will remain between humans and robots. Then again there is a limit.
I like repeating this thought maybe because since I heard it, it has been dwelling in my mind. its just simple one that. "Control what you can, remaining leave on god. You will get what you deserve at the end of the day." We in our lives are faced with many questions we really need answer to, its just that we cannot frame a suitable question or we are afraid of repercussions it may bring. Either ways I strongly believe its better to act than to keep guessing. Somehow that calculation comes into effect. How long? How much? Just say it.
You have one life, and that one life will suffice If you live it right. Everyone has their own struggle, just like you do. Its a matter of whom to smile to and whom to turn your back. Just two things to keep in mind after you finish reading this. One-be open to others opinion and express yourself. Two- Take it with a pinch of salt, not everything will happen as you like it.
As far as connections are concerned, want to make one yourself? Drop me a message.
Love all,
SAiSH
P:S Thanks to the readers because of whom the blog has got 2000+ hits also to my followers on twitter. You guys rock!
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