Right until this day and perhaps forever L O V E will continue to be the
most misidentified four letter word ever. Right from childhood we seek
love in form of doing activities we like doing again and again, and as our
hormones begin to show their effect on our psyche, we turn to movies, songs,
novels. Let me clarify here that while love cannot be pinned down to exact
terms in itself I am going to speak about love for your soul mate. While love
in mother’s eyes for her child is same yet different, it’s in due course of
time we shall reflect on what words can best define it.
Growing up is bad, and If you are in your early 30s you sure must have understood why so. From the very limited thinking about our grades and the whole affair of reward punishment system employed by our parents to the time we attain teenage and thence adults, a whole lot is thrown at us. Be it knowledge or emotions. And then what we attain in our life is decided by the choices we make. Some of us do it in generic way, college, job, family and become “aam insaan” while others carve a niche for themselves and become extraordinary, won’t use the words “khas insaan” because nobody and everybody can be special. And then appears the master emotion, the emotion that can provoke most other emotions. And that emotion has been split into four alphabets it consists of in the very first line of this blog article.
Contemplating on growing up again, the meaning of this four letter emotion changes, I say it becomes ripe and why ripe because it undergoes a metamorphosis. As 5 years old I would often say I love watching cartoon. As a 10 years old It would become cricket, At 14 cricket was replaced by some girls name (don’t laugh), At 20 by photography, At 23 Job and will go on until a point. At 5 all it meant was delight felt by watching, as age doubled it got associated with winning in the sport, Four years on it was infatuation, now this word doesn’t need explanation. Six years on it was passion and the pleasure I got after clicking something soulful. Three years on it became pleasure with commitment. The bottom line is, while the complexity of the emotion increased with age, I realized it is one and the same thing Happiness for me. But it’s not; love can’t be that simple right? I will make it more complex now.
Like how can an engine do without a piston, and a green plant without carbon di oxide, Love can’t exist without “Desire”. The dictionary meaning of this word is: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen. Here I would like to point out I am talking about the meaning of the emotions most of us associate with. Love for partner. We tend to blame films for high expectations from our relations, justified given the fact that in making of those films some human characteristics must have been used as bait. And we like innocuous fishes fall prey to it.
Desire and love cannot be separated but the former is the very word that spoils the latter. It’s definitely our first and primitive thought in wanting a partner with attractive features which are physical at start and with complexity and understanding becomes mental too. Infatuation creates anxiety, anxiety makes us dream, dreams create desire, desire drives actions, actions when rewarded becomes happiness, when unrewarded becomes pain and anger. See? Emotion that can provoke most other emotions. While this is the teenage part, here I am moving onto the mean purpose of this blog article. Love as its actual, true love as shown in movies and novels. Ishq waala love for Bollywood fanatics, Love for me.
Love for me is where all your dreams, all your desires, all your wishes, all wants get consolidated into just one person. You want to share everything with them, you want to be there for them in good and bad times, at a times defying logic and common sense. Love is easier to say than to put into act. It’s not proven by material wealth; it’s not measured by the skin, or by intellect. Its sacrifice, often of the things you love the most, of things you want to get done. It’s when your ego surrenders before the importance of that person. It’s often defiance of social rules. But likewise all things come in pairs, same with this emotion, you love someone and they love you back then it’s like a key opens lock of happiness, if you love someone and they don’t return it then one person`s denial becomes the source of pain for the others. There is no feeling more helpless than rejection and often because of this people fail to express. Those who rue in rejection often act out of desperation more and less with maturity. Sometimes I feel falling in love is like winning a lottery of happiness, it’s a great force, it can move mountains (well not literally) and it can break bones (if it does you have anger management issues, I am afraid) and also it can give a person the feeling of being on top of the world, That euphoria like feeling. Love is innocent but it can make you think evil, a hurt lover is like a wounded tiger, he can bite anyone. Then there are rebounds when a serious relationship ends and an emotionally incapable person finds himself in another one which is often short lived.
With the coming of today’s technology, just like how it’s difficult to find anything pure to the degree of 100% it’s difficult to find pure love as well. Emotions too, just like our lives have become complicated and often that sense of true affection gets lost somewhere between jealousy and facebook. I personally feel this master emotion has seen better days in the past, long live those who found love in the 2000s and 1990s for they understood it better. Love, is not everybody`s cup of tea these days, certainly not when you are seeking a good looking and intelligent partner because love cannot be sought it just happens and this is why I equated it with winning lottery. And again, finding it is not enough, like how we have to maintain our automobiles we have to maintain it as well. For that being said trust is must and along with it faith. A couple lives as one, one team, two hearts one soul. It’s never easy, but certainly not impossible. I happened to ask an old couple as to how they maintained their household and family life despite of age, they said “Now a days, when something is broken people replace it, we on the other hand used to or rather even now fix it, same applies to emotional ties”. While no doubt what they said holds very much truth, it’s also true we are spoilt by the choices we have that we consider even human beings as a commodity.
Last night I had a word with my friend Anil and I remember telling him this. “Money, objects of day today use and even limbs won’t ever make up for a lost loved one. Material things mean nothing once you lose someone” Trust is very much like paper, once crumbled is never the same.
To those in love I would say you guys won a lottery and are very fortunate. To those who are single, never search for it, it will come to you by its own. Those wondering what’s happening, time to introspect. Those just fallen in it. Forget the risk; take the fall, if it’s meant to be then it’s worth it all. Love my friends is the greatest motivation and there is enough in this article to show that. Life is short, but never rush, but never wait for too long also. Nobody is perfect and yet perfection assumes a different meaning when you are in l o v e.
-SAiSH
Growing up is bad, and If you are in your early 30s you sure must have understood why so. From the very limited thinking about our grades and the whole affair of reward punishment system employed by our parents to the time we attain teenage and thence adults, a whole lot is thrown at us. Be it knowledge or emotions. And then what we attain in our life is decided by the choices we make. Some of us do it in generic way, college, job, family and become “aam insaan” while others carve a niche for themselves and become extraordinary, won’t use the words “khas insaan” because nobody and everybody can be special. And then appears the master emotion, the emotion that can provoke most other emotions. And that emotion has been split into four alphabets it consists of in the very first line of this blog article.
Contemplating on growing up again, the meaning of this four letter emotion changes, I say it becomes ripe and why ripe because it undergoes a metamorphosis. As 5 years old I would often say I love watching cartoon. As a 10 years old It would become cricket, At 14 cricket was replaced by some girls name (don’t laugh), At 20 by photography, At 23 Job and will go on until a point. At 5 all it meant was delight felt by watching, as age doubled it got associated with winning in the sport, Four years on it was infatuation, now this word doesn’t need explanation. Six years on it was passion and the pleasure I got after clicking something soulful. Three years on it became pleasure with commitment. The bottom line is, while the complexity of the emotion increased with age, I realized it is one and the same thing Happiness for me. But it’s not; love can’t be that simple right? I will make it more complex now.
Like how can an engine do without a piston, and a green plant without carbon di oxide, Love can’t exist without “Desire”. The dictionary meaning of this word is: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen. Here I would like to point out I am talking about the meaning of the emotions most of us associate with. Love for partner. We tend to blame films for high expectations from our relations, justified given the fact that in making of those films some human characteristics must have been used as bait. And we like innocuous fishes fall prey to it.
Desire and love cannot be separated but the former is the very word that spoils the latter. It’s definitely our first and primitive thought in wanting a partner with attractive features which are physical at start and with complexity and understanding becomes mental too. Infatuation creates anxiety, anxiety makes us dream, dreams create desire, desire drives actions, actions when rewarded becomes happiness, when unrewarded becomes pain and anger. See? Emotion that can provoke most other emotions. While this is the teenage part, here I am moving onto the mean purpose of this blog article. Love as its actual, true love as shown in movies and novels. Ishq waala love for Bollywood fanatics, Love for me.
Love for me is where all your dreams, all your desires, all your wishes, all wants get consolidated into just one person. You want to share everything with them, you want to be there for them in good and bad times, at a times defying logic and common sense. Love is easier to say than to put into act. It’s not proven by material wealth; it’s not measured by the skin, or by intellect. Its sacrifice, often of the things you love the most, of things you want to get done. It’s when your ego surrenders before the importance of that person. It’s often defiance of social rules. But likewise all things come in pairs, same with this emotion, you love someone and they love you back then it’s like a key opens lock of happiness, if you love someone and they don’t return it then one person`s denial becomes the source of pain for the others. There is no feeling more helpless than rejection and often because of this people fail to express. Those who rue in rejection often act out of desperation more and less with maturity. Sometimes I feel falling in love is like winning a lottery of happiness, it’s a great force, it can move mountains (well not literally) and it can break bones (if it does you have anger management issues, I am afraid) and also it can give a person the feeling of being on top of the world, That euphoria like feeling. Love is innocent but it can make you think evil, a hurt lover is like a wounded tiger, he can bite anyone. Then there are rebounds when a serious relationship ends and an emotionally incapable person finds himself in another one which is often short lived.
With the coming of today’s technology, just like how it’s difficult to find anything pure to the degree of 100% it’s difficult to find pure love as well. Emotions too, just like our lives have become complicated and often that sense of true affection gets lost somewhere between jealousy and facebook. I personally feel this master emotion has seen better days in the past, long live those who found love in the 2000s and 1990s for they understood it better. Love, is not everybody`s cup of tea these days, certainly not when you are seeking a good looking and intelligent partner because love cannot be sought it just happens and this is why I equated it with winning lottery. And again, finding it is not enough, like how we have to maintain our automobiles we have to maintain it as well. For that being said trust is must and along with it faith. A couple lives as one, one team, two hearts one soul. It’s never easy, but certainly not impossible. I happened to ask an old couple as to how they maintained their household and family life despite of age, they said “Now a days, when something is broken people replace it, we on the other hand used to or rather even now fix it, same applies to emotional ties”. While no doubt what they said holds very much truth, it’s also true we are spoilt by the choices we have that we consider even human beings as a commodity.
Last night I had a word with my friend Anil and I remember telling him this. “Money, objects of day today use and even limbs won’t ever make up for a lost loved one. Material things mean nothing once you lose someone” Trust is very much like paper, once crumbled is never the same.
To those in love I would say you guys won a lottery and are very fortunate. To those who are single, never search for it, it will come to you by its own. Those wondering what’s happening, time to introspect. Those just fallen in it. Forget the risk; take the fall, if it’s meant to be then it’s worth it all. Love my friends is the greatest motivation and there is enough in this article to show that. Life is short, but never rush, but never wait for too long also. Nobody is perfect and yet perfection assumes a different meaning when you are in l o v e.
-SAiSH
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