Love letters, roses, proposing on one knee, calling at random time to say those magic words, who does that? and magic words? Excuse me?
With the advent of internet and social networking sites, certain aspects of romance and relationships have gone for a toss. And before I continue let me tell you what those magic words are. I love you. In case you happen to be a teenager and somebody speaks about magic words, remember those.
Getting back to romance and internet. There was a time when romance was without internet and mobile phones. Those hand written love letters, proposals, roses had and still has more originality and power than sending ecards, texts, emails, emoticons. Along with these there has been change in values of affection, trust, faith. The mass appeal of social networking sites has made us emotionally handicap. Now here I wish to divert a little bit. Into long distance relationships and relationships. I will discuss the former because its the one that has more impact of internet than the latter.
Finding somebody cute or hot, liking their photos, adding them, chatting, flirting, then video chats, exchanging numbers and if everything goes well, real physical encounter, two people click, well and good. they don't. NEXTTT! I wonder wheres the feeling part in this. Just attraction?
People despise such over the internet relationships mainly because of two reasons. One is that anybody can fake looks and pretend to be somebody they aren't. Two is that lack of physical contact, touch. Besides always a risk of cheating. Who knows, he may be telling many girls the exact same thing. How are you supposed to believe that? And wait, how is he supposed to believe you? Problem? Not exactly.
While it may be easy to fake expressions over the wireless world, its not easy to decieve someone mentally. Certain signs, actions, these join two distant partners in an invisible thread of trust. that HE IS THE ONE feeling arises. If you are even a little smart you can easily make out the fake from the real. And no I don't agree that proximity is an absolute necessity to love someone. There are people who are close, they are the best of friends, they secretly love each other and yet cant tell. Proximity isn't a necessity. Communication is. Being clear about the feelings, expression of even the littlest of doubts. Jumping to conclusion is one thing that can spoil any relationship. There must be millions of people out there in long distance relationships, but then how many are for real? Is your love true? Controversial to say the least.
Let me tell you about mine. Yes mine is wireless love. Proudly so. My partner and I live just a little under 2000km far. We are happy over the daily telephonic conversations we have, the occasional skype and texting. We keep our relationship alive by feeding it with constant doses of love, making each other laugh, teasing, sharing the nostalgia of our last encounter. Most of all, we believe in a world composed of just two souls, two of ours. Others are just supporting us. We are far yet together. And from my experience I can happily conclude that a faithful partner far is much better than a doubtful one close.
And no, she isn't incredibly pretty nor am I immensely handsome. We are just two happy souls living in our love world.
Wireless love, desirable or not? Your choice. Partners living next door have no gurentee of their relationship leave wireless love aside. Be true to your partner and most importantly be true to yourself. You cant cheat yourself. Stay blessed. :)
With the advent of internet and social networking sites, certain aspects of romance and relationships have gone for a toss. And before I continue let me tell you what those magic words are. I love you. In case you happen to be a teenager and somebody speaks about magic words, remember those.
Getting back to romance and internet. There was a time when romance was without internet and mobile phones. Those hand written love letters, proposals, roses had and still has more originality and power than sending ecards, texts, emails, emoticons. Along with these there has been change in values of affection, trust, faith. The mass appeal of social networking sites has made us emotionally handicap. Now here I wish to divert a little bit. Into long distance relationships and relationships. I will discuss the former because its the one that has more impact of internet than the latter.
Finding somebody cute or hot, liking their photos, adding them, chatting, flirting, then video chats, exchanging numbers and if everything goes well, real physical encounter, two people click, well and good. they don't. NEXTTT! I wonder wheres the feeling part in this. Just attraction?
People despise such over the internet relationships mainly because of two reasons. One is that anybody can fake looks and pretend to be somebody they aren't. Two is that lack of physical contact, touch. Besides always a risk of cheating. Who knows, he may be telling many girls the exact same thing. How are you supposed to believe that? And wait, how is he supposed to believe you? Problem? Not exactly.
While it may be easy to fake expressions over the wireless world, its not easy to decieve someone mentally. Certain signs, actions, these join two distant partners in an invisible thread of trust. that HE IS THE ONE feeling arises. If you are even a little smart you can easily make out the fake from the real. And no I don't agree that proximity is an absolute necessity to love someone. There are people who are close, they are the best of friends, they secretly love each other and yet cant tell. Proximity isn't a necessity. Communication is. Being clear about the feelings, expression of even the littlest of doubts. Jumping to conclusion is one thing that can spoil any relationship. There must be millions of people out there in long distance relationships, but then how many are for real? Is your love true? Controversial to say the least.
Let me tell you about mine. Yes mine is wireless love. Proudly so. My partner and I live just a little under 2000km far. We are happy over the daily telephonic conversations we have, the occasional skype and texting. We keep our relationship alive by feeding it with constant doses of love, making each other laugh, teasing, sharing the nostalgia of our last encounter. Most of all, we believe in a world composed of just two souls, two of ours. Others are just supporting us. We are far yet together. And from my experience I can happily conclude that a faithful partner far is much better than a doubtful one close.
And no, she isn't incredibly pretty nor am I immensely handsome. We are just two happy souls living in our love world.
Wireless love, desirable or not? Your choice. Partners living next door have no gurentee of their relationship leave wireless love aside. Be true to your partner and most importantly be true to yourself. You cant cheat yourself. Stay blessed. :)
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